Bravery is a muscle.
Muscles are not only bulging biceps, twitching delts or popping calves built at the gym… we have emotional and mental muscles, too. And, like those muscles in the gym, they must be worked consistently if we want them to exist. These mental muscles however – in my opinion – can be some of the most challenging to work.
Sorry. Gross picture. But I had to.
Different people find different things hard or uncomfortable. For me, its putting myself out there and risking rejection. Basically anything that I know risks me feeling uncomfortable or embarrassed. And there’s not much that makes me feel more embarrassed, guilty, or uncomfortable than asking for things or making an offer out of my own accord. Which is ironic as this is basically 98% of the industry I am engulfed in. I always feel so terrified that someone is going to think I am a) annoying b) full of myself c) that they will feel the need to pity me or d) that they think I am doing such thing out of pure selfish-ness. BUT because I know this is such a necessary part of my career, I know I have to consciously work this muscle of mine and continuously put myself into positions that I do find uncomfortable. Like my dear friend Meg always says, “the more you do it, the easier it will become.” Bravery: just like any other muscle, you’ve got to work it.Bravery: A Muscle You've Got to Work. #bravery #mentalstrength #confidence Click To Tweet
Putting out blog posts STILL feels really uncomfortable to me. This is yet another reason I started a blog in the first place – to practice this muscle of putting out my own words, experiences and opinions at the risk of other peoples’ judgements. Every post, I am uncomfortable with the notion of people not agreeing with what I say, and I feel the pull to sway my opinions to appease others’. A blog is a safe medium for this and I think it is an excellent way for those of us who share this sensitivity to really practice and strengthen this bravery muscle.
After the agent rejection I had last monday, something funny happened. Instead of getting defeated, its like my determination and stubborness just jumped up 5 notches on the fierce-ometer. I immediately kicked my butt in gear and filled my to do list with things focused on my goals. Things which make me so, SO hella uncomfortable. But I plunged in, risked rejection and discomfort in so many different places, and yes… I did feel uncomfortable, embarrassed and guilty more times than not. But I worked these muscles and have faith that they will start to strengthen.
Meg was also ‘right’ when she started the Week In Review. This week, I’m patting myself on the back for strengthening that bravery muscle of mine. For putting myself out there – knee deep into some uncomfortable feelings – but plowing full steam ahead.
Chilling on the streetcar learning lines
Outcome? All expected feelings. But really enjoyed the movie and the night regardless.
Off to the the-atre in style
…but you’ll have to wait until later this week to hear more about that
Oh hey on that note, I’ve gained two pounds since starting this little venture. So… muscle building is happening all around it seems.What mental muscle would you like to strengthen? #weekinreview with @cleaneatsfast… Click To Tweet
Bravery. Its all so uncomfortable. I’m putting myself out there into a deep pool of risk and rejection. But, it is also empowering. I can feel the “who cares what anyone else thinks” muscle building and as long as I keep working it, I hope it will become stronger than its opposing friends.
So you tell me,
What mental muscle are you/would you like to build? How can you strengthen it more?