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A Coffeeshop Kind of Person: Week In Review

Goodmorning,

It’s been a coffeeshop week. 

As I think you know, I’m a coffeeshop kind of person. I am often found by myself with my journal or laptop cozied away in a cafe, writing, eating a piece of baking and drinking a creamy americano. More often then not, I crave this. I crave this sense of solitude while being surrounded by the casual hub of others. I crave the subconscious external noise of door chimes, chatter and milk steaming machines. And of course, I crave baking. 

Coffeeshops somehow match with my level of sensitivity. My deep thoughts are given a place to careen graciously without judgement. Somehow, I feel an allowance – a compassion – in these spaces to let my feelings run as they please. 

That being said, I find I go in phases. 

On roughly alternating weeks, I actually crave time at home. Sometimes the thought of sitting at my table with my own french press, news on in the background, my own ability to get up and down as I please is what feels best. I like this. I like that now I can find safety and comfort at home alone, whereas at one point this was consistently a scary, anxiety producing event, and so I would avoid it at all costs. Sometimes it still is, and so sometimes I do take off running. But I’ve proven to myself that this is not always the case and that I can survive this truly solitary time at home by myself. 

The week before last was a home week. But this week…. was a coffeeshop week. I needed the comfort. I’m not sure exactly why, but my sensitivity felt a little heightened. I felt the need for softness. So that’s where it took me. I did have an upsetting day that resulted in an afternoon of tears that just would not stop (long story short I found out I forgot to cancel an appointment and was being charged $100 – which I don’t have – which triggered the #typicalme syndrome).  But I think I was feeling a little extra fragile before hand, because it seemed to unlock a vast cannon of emotion. 

Anyways. In the past I think I would have found a way to punish myself for this, er, frequent shortcoming of mine. But now… somehow I’ve gotten to the place where I crave self comfort. Immediately I knew I needed to show myself some love. I did not eat a salad for dinner or force myself into an adrenaline ramped home workout. Rather, I went to coffeeshops and ate my favorite baking. I spent money on myself even though that was the very thing that I was feeling upset about. I meditated and even, my god, took a nap. 

Now that I’ve had a week where coffeeshops were needed, I can already feel that this coming week will be back to a home week and I will crave/be comfortable at home again. 

Obviously being a coffeeshop person leads to long wordy blog posts – which I’ve now just demonstrated – apologies! But I can’t let a Monday go by without linking up with Meg’s Week In Review. Because, like coffeeshops, it makes me feel good. I may not have been super productive, but I did show myself comfort this week, which I think is one of the greatest accomplishments of all. 

This week I…

  • Opened my show with 5 performances. Shows are going very well. I have my one day break today then back at it tomorrow. 
  • I diverted from my previous week’s muffin stint and expanded with some new easy to grab breakfast options (still going strong on the quick breakfasts). I baked Amanda’s Soft Baked Brownie Breakfast Bars and these Blueberry Quinoa Breakfast Bars. My god – talk about winners. These are BOTH awesome! Amanda’s brownie bars are this perfect combination of brownie meets oat bake. I actually ate it more as dessert than breakfast. The blueberry quinoa bars have the perfect texture, with crunch from the hemp seeds and quinoa and chew from the oats. And I mean just look at those ingredients… you feel happy just knowing that in of itself. 

Soft Baked Breakfast Brownies 

Blueberry Quinoa Breakfast Bars

  • I pumped out 4 blog posts – see what I mean by taking a blog break? I caught you up on my recent eats, told you about my dream, and threw salads at you like Rainbow Bright on riddelliinne – along with a nifty recipe for vegan parmesan cheese.  
  • I replied to your wonderful comments
  • I ate these Thai spiced kimchi tuna patties I concocted last week every. single. day. It seems I underestimated these guys. They are absolutely delicious and just kept getting better day after day. Maybe I do need to share the recipe. 

  • I meditated/relaxed a number of times, and like I said, even took a nap
  • I put together an audition package to drop off today
  • I tried the new Cascara latte from Starbucks – I really liked it! Not too sweet. 

coffeeshop person latte

  • I ate my favorite uber sticky, icing drenched cinnamon bun

coffeeshop person cinnamon bun

  • My throat became be very sore at the end of the week, so I’ve been resting, drowning my insides with warm honey and lemon, gargling salt and have put myself on 24 hours of vocal rest. But if you have any super amazing quick remedies for sore throats… throw ’em at me!!

Lemon Water

  • I treated myself to a snowy streetcar ride. I actually find streetcars super relaxing.

coffeeshop person streetcar

  • Especially when they are leading me to my favorite cafe – Tori’s – where I treated myself to a stool seat, americano and overlooking view of snowy windows and delicious vegan baking

coffeeshop person  

coffeeshop person scone

Vegan broccoli cheddar scone – I mean look at that broccoli!!

PS – the two strangers sitting beside me just smiled at me and said “bye bye now.” Oh happy things. 

Are you a coffeeshop person? Where do you go for comfort? #coffeeshop #comfort #compassion… Click To Tweet

On my way back home on the streetcar – after writing this post – I was continuing to read “Quiet,” by Susan Cain and came to this paragraph:

“When I was getting ready to write this book, I carefully set up my home office, complete with uncluttered desk, file cabinets, free counter space, and plenty of natural light – and then felt too cut off from the world to type a single key. Instead, I wrote most of this book on a laptop at my favorite densely packed neighborhood cafe. The presence of the other people helped my mind to make associative leaps… The cafe had specific attributes that are absent from many modern schools and workplaces. It was social, yet its casual come-and-go-as-you-please nature left me free from unwelcome entanglements. I could toggle back and forth between observer and social actor as much as I wanted. And I could control my environment, choosing where to sit each day depending on if I wanted to be seen, or just see….”

Synchronicity is pretty lovely, isn’t it?

So I’m a coffeeshop kind of person. They are special places to me. I’ve found it fascinating in my journey – as I learn about myself and my sensitivities – to see how and why and when I crave the setting of a coffeeshop. They bring me a sense of safety. And I no longer see this as something to be ashamed of. Whether it be my introverted nature or need for space or desire for quiet connection with others, coffeeshops will always be that place that I feel most at peace. 

 

Tell me,

When you crave comfort, do you see yourself at home, at a coffeeshop, or somewhere else? Alone or with others?

What did you do to take care of yourself last week? 


   

 

45 COMMENTS

  1. Susie @ Suzlyfe | 12th Feb 17

    I’ve been seeking out coffeeshops this week as well. I love my dog, I love being home, but I am so much more productive right now when I am NOT there. And right now, I need the productivity.
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    • Cora | 16th Feb 17

      Yes – I really hope you’ve been finding some solid focused you-prouctivity time and that its been putting a spark under your bum and into your soul. Coffeeshops are real good for that.

  2. Gail | 13th Feb 17

    You make me wish I had a regular, friendly neighbourhood coffee shop. When I’m in the city, any city, I find myself drawn to the independent coffee shops. I people watch, write in my journal, make to do lists. Coincidentally, my favourite guy and I went to a coffee shop on Friday to have a coffee, a chat and make plans for our weekend and I thought of you.

    • Cora | 16th Feb 17

      That’s what I do, too. Coffeeshops make the BEST list-making settings. And being able to go to one with your guy and just talk is always so special <3

  3. chasetheredgrape | 13th Feb 17

    Oh how I feel your comfort at that coffee shop. It’s the same reason I go to the library. I wish I had a local coffee shop but since I live in the central business district all the cafes are small and grab and go style! Maybe if we move to a suburb I will be able to find a good place… In fact I know where I would love to move to and the exact coffee place I would frequent. Huge leather armchairs…!
    I burned a brand new reebok crossfit tshirt the other month that I had bought out with david as a treat… The iron was too hot and it was ruined. Oh boy did I want to beat myself up for days! But david took me the following day to buy a replacement. I didn’t want to, I felt I needed punishment rather than being rewarded but he knew I needed to fully believe that mistakes happen and that I did nothing wrong. I’m so glad he did. And I am so glad you took youself out for a treat 🙂
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    • Cora | 16th Feb 17

      Leather armchairs!! Oh yes you better believe I run to those whenever I see them at a coffeeshop. Libraries are the same thing, though, I think. I also like to go there. The same hub and energy of people around without needing to talk to them. And everyone working which makes you more productive. I love the image of you at your library people watching away.
      Good for David and good for you!! That is one smart man.

  4. Suzi | 13th Feb 17

    When I read that you had reacted with self compassion rather than self punishment I broke into a smile. My go-to thought process after something stressful is self hatred, but I no longer act on it which is definitely progress. I take comfort from being at the stables; there is something extremely comforting in sitting in the corner, watching my old boy eat his hay. I think it helps that I can talk it out at him and he listens, but (obviously!) can’t reply. It’s like a non-judgemental space, plus it reminds me of my childhood which is always a comfort too.
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    • Cora | 16th Feb 17

      Not acting on those thoughts is massive. I lovveeeee this image, Suzi. Your description in of itself makes me feel at peace – envisioning the quiet of the stable and the gentleness of the horses. I think what’s so wonderful about coffeeshops – which is the same as with your horses – is we get that sense of connection while knowing we can be free to do/say as we want without any judgement. And comfort and childhood are directly linked, I think. Thank you for this!!!

  5. Sarah @ Bucket List Tummy | 13th Feb 17

    I feel like I am on the exact same page as you with balancing between coffee shops and home. On the days I don’t have early clients, sometimes I crave the community of a coffee shop, while others I want to be home in my bubble. Sorry about your appointment cancellation charge – I wish more doctors weren’t so strict about that kinda stuff. I’m heading to check out both of those bar recipes. YUM!
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    • Cora | 16th Feb 17

      I think its cool that we are people who can/like to be in both places. It keeps things interesting that we go back and forth between where we want to be, and that we like each for different times. You’d love both those bars – especially the quinoa one I think. It actually reminds me of your quinoa apple chocolate chip bake! Oooooo totally put chocolate chips in it.

  6. danielle | 13th Feb 17

    yessssssss i totally do. i’ve always been drawn to cozy corners and coffee shop vibes. when i was 14 i spent a summer in New Zealand wandering around solo while staying with my aunt. i had the days to myself and always found refuge in little cafes. i absolutely loved having my cuppa and finding a nice corner to retreat, while hearing the buzz of life around me. yes i get this.
    these days i find comfort in my local whole foods, grabbing my coffee and wandering the isles during an off hour… smelling spices while sipping something yummy. daydreaming, always.
    XO
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    • Cora | 16th Feb 17

      Wow – 14. You’ve been a coffeeshop soul since so young! This is exactly how I like to travel. I swear I could just do a city exploring coffeeshop to coffeeshop. There’s something about that buzz of life around us… It is so comforting to know we can just be there with it, in it, and watch it from the side.
      This way of spending your off hour sounds absolutely wonderful. I’ve actually started doing something similar – meandering shops on my free time or taking more time to do my groceries specifically to just slowly wander the aisles. Taking a coffee along with me needs to happen next time. <3 <3

  7. Kat | 13th Feb 17

    What in the world is a Cascara latte? I don’t go to Bucks very often anymore so I guess I’m out of the latte loop!
    When I was in high school I used to spend all my time at book stores, which had a Starbucks in it. I would grab a latte and head to the nutrition/fitness section and read up on different nutrients, etc then plan new workouts for myself. I would spend HOURS on the floors just covered in books, sipping away on my latte.
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    • Cora | 16th Feb 17

      Its the new latte at SB (at least here in Canada). Apparently cascara is a coffee berry. So really it just tastes like a lightly sweetened regular latte – maybe with a bit of a brown sugar/maple syrup hint. Really nice!
      I love this picture of you!! That’s something I would see myself doing even now. I remember when I was little I had to wait for a couple hours every week in a coffee shop and would always get this massive white hot chocolate with extra whipped cream. I thought I was so posh.

  8. Patricia @Sweet and Strong | 13th Feb 17

    I go through phases as well. Sometimes I love the coffee shop scene, other times I like the comfort of being home. You got quite a lot accomplished this week and so many yummy eats. I’m with you on the sore throat I have a runny nose too been fighting it all week. Crazy how much we take our health for granted because even with a little cold I truly don’t feel like the same person.
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    • Cora | 16th Feb 17

      Oh no! Blegh. I hope it has left you by now or at least you’ve found a way to start feeling back to yourself. Even those small things really take away our usual energy, for sure.

  9. Lyss | 13th Feb 17

    I am such a coffeshop kind of person. I always find myself at starbucks when I need an escape. I love blogging there, doing homework, reading, writing in my journal, etc. It is a little safehaven for me and a place that I feel relaxed and calm. Praying your week is off to a good start Cora!
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    • Cora | 16th Feb 17

      You and I are coffeeshop soul sisters. I love hearing about your starbucks trips… just wish I could join you!

  10. Emily Swanson | 13th Feb 17

    A snowy streetcar ride sounds so idyllic! And I love being in tiny, cute little coffee shops; the pastries are my favorite (because I’m a weirdo and I don’t like coffee O_O). I LOVE that you spent time just drinking in all the delight of a beautiful quiet atmosphere.
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    • Cora | 16th Feb 17

      You aren’t a weirdo. Especially if the pastries are your favorite… then you are RIGHT on course 🙂

  11. Meghan@CleanEatsFastFeets | 13th Feb 17

    I think a coffee shop week sounds magical. I used to never go out alone and now I find such comfort in it. It’s really quite lovely to be solo yet surrounded by people. It’s a perfect blend of alone time yet still being social; perfect for us introverts.

    Sorry about the missed appointment and the money. I think you more than made up for it by taking such wonderful care of yourself…hello broccoli scone. That’s a definite winner and now I want to throw all manner of veggies in my drop biscuits and see what happens.
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    • Cora | 16th Feb 17

      Exactly – its that buzz of life around us without feeling the need to be in the middle of it. We feel connection without feeling any pressure. Its perfect.
      I so thought of you with that scone. Your biscuits are better, though. Next time I make them though, I think big wads of broccoli are going in.

  12. Nicole | 13th Feb 17

    I recently moved to be with my long-distance boyfriend and have discovered that I’m definitely a coffee shop person. I enjoy spending time alone and thought I’d love having a quiet apartment to myself while I looked for a new job, but it started to drive me crazy after less than a week! I guess I didn’t think about the difference between simply being in the company of others while working independently and being with others in a situation where you’re actually interacting, which requires recharging afterward for me. PS – I like cascara latte too!

    • Cora | 16th Feb 17

      Exactly!! Isn’t it such a difference? We may really love/need our “alone time” and yet being completely alone in an empty house can not actually be what we desire. I’m such an introvert and yet this type of aloneness actually doesn’t feel good. Hence why coffeeshops give me that perfect mix of connection while still being “alone” (interaction drains me too…. I get you). And I get waaay more work done when I have that life around me rather than when I’m completely alone. Thank you for this!!

  13. Jamie@TheMomGene | 13th Feb 17

    When I crave comfort I want to be home, alone, curled up in a blanket with a good book. I think it’s because I’m NEVER home alone. To have the house to myself would be bliss. When I lived alone in New York, I sought out coffee shops to work and think and chill…it helped me feel connected without necessarily having to engage, which was nice.
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    • Cora | 16th Feb 17

      If you are never home alone then I SO see how this would be an ultimate haven. That’s exactly what I like about coffeeshops – feeling a connection but not having any pressure to be immersed, and therefore react, to it. I wonder – where do you do your best writing? At home? In silence? Or with others (the kids?) around?

  14. Heather @ Polyglot Jot | 13th Feb 17

    I could definitely see a coffee shop being a comforting place. You can actually find Youtube videos/audio of white noise of a coffee shop haha! I think I would say most comforting to me is home!
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    • Cora | 16th Feb 17

      Ha! I should look that up next time I choose to stay home to work! I think being a home person is perfect for an upcoming mom 🙂

  15. Ellie Pell | 13th Feb 17

    On all my days off I go to the cafe at Wegmans for lunch. Usually I bring my lunch and get a nice creamy coffee to go with it. On the weekends they have live music which is nice to sit, relax, eat and read. I look forward to this during the week and often take my time eating for an hour! I get lost in the moment and don’t feel the need to hurry. It’s blissful 🙂
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    • Cora | 16th Feb 17

      That sounds marvelous!! I wish I had a cafe with live music. This is also the other thing I love about coffeeshops – I don’t rush through my food or drink anxiously like I do at home. I sip away slowly which makes me enjoy it all more. I also sneak in my own lunch to pair with my creamy coffee. Great minds… <3

  16. Joyce @ The Hungry Caterpillar | 13th Feb 17

    I’m not much of a coffee shop person; however, I am a long, thought-out blog post kind of person. So, yes, I do understand the need for a quiet space to reflect, read, and write. Libraries are often that space for me.
    Blargh! on the typical me moment. I can relate in that I have those all the time. I especially get frustrated when there’s monetary consequences. At least you can know you’re not alone?
    I love how you and Susan Cain are right on the same wavelength. 🙂
    I want to make those brownie breakfast bars too!
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    • Cora | 16th Feb 17

      Libraries are the same, I think. A place where there is that hub of life around you, but without needing to engage with others, and the productivity of others around always makes me more productive as well.
      Oh I know I’m not alone… you and I have these same lovely “qualities” don’t we. Our mothers still love us…

  17. Evangeline | 13th Feb 17

    You are most definitely a coffee shop person…artistic, reflective, warm. Okay so maybe I just generalized all people who frequent coffee shops, but I think you get me. I understand the phases though. They balance out, I suppose. I’m so happy to hear that the shows are going well! What play are you performing?
    Holy moly that broccoli scone looks awesome, as do all the pictured bake goods. Hmm, when I crave comfort, I need to be alone. Not necessarily alone alone but just not around people who know me or would try to interact with me. Does that make sense? Usually, I like driving to a grocery store or just spending time wrapped up in a blanket, reading a book in my room.
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    • Cora | 22nd Feb 17

      Haha – hey if artistic, reflective and warm are stereotypes of coffee shop people – I’ll totally take it!
      I was perfomring Midsummer Nights Dream (Shakespeare). I was playing Theseus the Duke of Athens and Oberon the Fairy King. Did you ever have to study the play in school?
      And yes I absolutey get you. Its funny. Sometimes when I need comfort I want to be around people (family or loved ones), but more often than not I also need to be alone (“alone” like in a coffeeshop). I want the energy of people around me but want my own silence and space to let me thoughts wander .

  18. Casey the College Celiac | 14th Feb 17

    When I need comfort, I usually stay at home or go for long walks. Getting outside always helps!
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    • Cora | 16th Feb 17

      Oh it sure does! Except if you are where I live and it is still in the minus degrees and snowy. As soon as it gets nicer I will be seeking much comfort from my lovely trees.

  19. Kristy from Southern In Law | 14th Feb 17

    What a week you’ve had!

    Last week I took care of myself by giving myself a complete break. I took a full day off work on Friday because I’d had a horrible day on Thursday and I just needed to do nothing and refind myself. Then on Saturday I didn’t go to Zumba and stayed home and baked instead because I still felt like I needed rest – and by Saturday lunchtime I was back to my old self!
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    • Cora | 16th Feb 17

      YES. Kristy – good for you!! You are really inspiring at how you can listen to yourself and make your health and happiness priority. And look… obviously it works!

  20. Miss Polkadot | 16th Feb 17

    Ah, reading this post made my heart happy. The missed appointment obviously was a bump in the road [they seriously are charging 100 $ for what can happen to any of us once in a while?!]. But the way you handled it, showing yourself – maybe your inner child? – kindness rather than worsening the situation by punishment is wonderful. Coffee shop weeks in your life sound incredibly blissful. We don’t have that kind of coffeeshop culture – i.e. going there by yourself to work; many wouldn’t even have plug sockets or Internet access available – and you as well as other bloggers make me feel like I was missing out. I identify with your opening lines about the struggle of being at home by yourself a lot. Maybe the whole going to a coffeeshop to be productive in my writing would do wonders for me, too.
    Congratulations on the successful opening of your show. How much longer does it go for?
    There would be much more to comment on again but we know I’m getting wordy very easily here …
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    • Cora | 16th Feb 17

      Inner child…. yep. I think there is a huge connection with our childhoods and things that still bring us comfort. I didn’t like coffee when I was little but I loved finding little cozy places that I could just watch and be quiet.
      That’s so interesting that you don’t have the same cafe culture in Germany. I think other places in Europe are huge with coffeeshops, no?? If you did, I can see you definitely cozied away with your laptop in a nice little cafe corner. Writing or reading your current favorite book. I’d join you and we could just be there in silence together.

  21. Kaylee | 18th Feb 17

    I’m sitting in this unique little coffee shop right now that also acts as a meeting space for community events, meetings, etc. They also donate 10% of their profits to local organizations. On top of that, they serve muffins!!!! Gotta come back to this one. I totally get your liking for coffee shops. My ambiverted self loves being with people without really being with people if ya get what I mean. I would much rather spend a morning here than an evening out at a bar. Not your typical 21-year-old. I’ve got an old soul for sure.

    Shockingly, I’ve never had a savory scone so I’m pretty jealous of that broccoli cheddar beauty you’ve got your hands on. Random thought, is savory scone just a biscuit???
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    • Cora | 22nd Feb 17

      So cool!!! I like the sound of this place – both for the charity and the muffins. I totally get what you mean, and I am the exact same. We can be old souls together. Grab the knitting and I’ll grab the tea…
      Haha. Hmmmmmm. To be honest I still don’t know the technical difference between a scone and a biscuit. Is there one? To me scones are always bigger. Biscuits aren’t usually sweet though, eh? Usually just plain, or maybe with cheese, and smaller.

  22. Runwright | 24th Feb 17

    I love that excerpt from Quiet. I still haven’t read that book but you’ve reminded me that I should.
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    • Cora | 25th Feb 17

      I’m only half way through but it is definitely interesting. Makes us introverts feel pretty kick ass 🙂

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