He says, “The Law of Attraction brings you more of whatever you give your attention, energy and focus to.” He also says that each of us has a vibrational bubble surrounding us, and that captured in this bubble are all the vibrations we are continually sending out. Because The Law Of Attraction sends back to us whatever is inside this vibrational bubble, we want our desire – and all positive thoughts that focus on our desire – to be the only vibrations present.
Affirmations are often seen as a way to encourage a positive outlook; a visualization to foster a sense of confidence in having something you desire.
But Losier raises a very good point.
What if your affirmation is simply not true?….. yet.
If, in your meditation or visualization process, you repeat certain words to yourself…
“I am happy”
“I love my body”
“I am successful”
with the intention that by saying these words, you heighten your confidence to achieve these things, you are also opening yourself up to the potential of negativity.
Anytime we speak, we have a reaction based on how our words make us feel, whether that is shown or kept secret inside us. We all know this. When we say something we know isn’t quite true, we feel something not so right inside.
What if, at this time of your life, you simply do not love your body. What if you, realistically, aren’t the image of success you would like? Well then, when you say these words, you will inadvertently create a negative vibration within you because the words will elicit a feeling of doubt.
“But that’s not true…. I’m not happy right now.”
“But that’s not true…. I don’t love my body right now.”
“But that’s not true…. I’m not yet as successful as I would like to be.”
We can imagine all we want – and I think keeping that desire as a strong visual in our minds is very positive and important – but when we state something that is simply not true for us, we send a negative vibration through our bodies because the statement activates doubt within us.
The key to using affirmations, as Losier says, is that they MUST BE TRUE FOR US. If they are true – really really true for us –then it will make us feel good.
So basically – it’s okay!! It’s okay to not use these glimmering shiny affirmations of “I love my body” “I am successful” etc. etc if they aren’t true for us because that’s simply not where we are. Instead, what if we used the words, “I am in the process of….”
When we are working toward something, we are in the process of getting what we want. Saying this statement, therefore, is speaking your truth, and as a result, the statement feels good. It feels good to know we are actively working toward something! When it feels good inside you, you are sending out a positive vibration. The Law of Attraction can then respond and bring you more of this exact same thing.
It could feel like you are stepping down off a pedestal by changing your words to these. But it also feels a lot lighter, with a lot less pressure, and a whole lot more grace.
I am in the process of a lot of things. Achieving my dream. Achieving a healthy weight. Garnering a self love in which I feel confident and proud of taking care of myself and my body. Figuring out what matters most to me and learning to appreciate more breathe, more relaxation and more grace.
Last week I…
Took myself out for a window seat lunch
I am in the process of learning that I am deserving of taking myself out; that I deserve to spend money on myself
I had an acting lesson, went to film class, worked on my script, went to a script reading for my upcoming film, and prepped and got myself to a theatre audition.
I had a last minute accompaniment coaching which cost far, far more money than I was expecting. I felt (and still do feel) really upset about it. But, I’ve been able to let it go and instead try to feel proud of myself for putting my goals and work first. Even if it uses all my money.
I am in the process of doing all I can, collecting all the resources and all the experiences, in order to achieve my dream
I enjoyed moments of undistracted, unplugged silence
A breathe of lake air before my lesson
A quiet coffee before work
An afternoon sunspot
I am in the process of learning to find solace in small, quiet moments
I am in the process of learning to be okay with being with myself
I had three friends over to my house where I served up snacks and homemade apple/ginger/lemon cider whisky cocktails. I met up with an old classmate for a coffee and saw a play together. I had a date night with Dan where we ate tuna melts and watched, “Call Me By Your Name.”
I am in the process of trying to garner more friendships in my life
I am in the process of learning that time with others and relationships are more important than other things
I had a morning of journaling and drawing and a morning in which I did a restorative yoga video. I went to two yoga classes – one of which was an 1.5 hour Feelosophy class which was a mix of restorative yoga and MASSAGE THERAPY
I am in the process of learning that my body, like my inner child, has a voice
I am in the process of trying to choose breathe and gentle movement over tensing and over working myself
I am in the process of learning to love my body more and more and listen to its needs
I also did a good chunk of undistracted journalling and reading
I am in the process of attracting all the strength, courage and readiness to love myself, my body, and feel proud of being my true self
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I am in the process of gaining the courage to see my body change
I am in the process of doing all I can to achieve my dream
I am in the process of learning to embrace and love giving my body more nourishment
I am in the process of learning to feel strong at the thought of doing what’s right for me
We are all, always, in process. Have grace for yourself. Have grace for being in this process. Have grace for the lessons, the learnings, the mistakes, the regrets, the uncertainties, the confusions, the letting gos and the moving forwards that we all experience each and every day. I am not there yet. I am in process.
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What are you in process of?
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