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Week In Review: Thoughts on Feeling Deserving

Hi all, and happy start to a new week.

For my Week In Review this week, I wanted to put out a reminder about what it means to feel “deserving”. Ya’ll know this is something I struggle with – in regards to spending money, food and any sort of indulging. This past week though, I found myself feeling pretty damn deserving of some little treats and luxuries. 

Did I do much to “deserve” these things? Nah, maybe not. Not in the “technical” form of the word, at least. This week was one of those where 90% of my time and focus was spent on one single activity – I was performing my workshop production of, “The Last Days of Judas Iscariot,” as a sort of “precursor” to my season to come this year (“workshop” in the theatre world basically means a single or short run of a show, with low budget, minimal set etc….. but still excellent quality theatre if I do say so myself). So literally all my time was spent at the theatre in rehearsal, and then performing, leaving no time for anything else. 

That being said, just because I wasn’t working out or bustling around the city doing errands, ticking things off my to do list or feeling stressed because I was so busy (it really wasn’t a stressful week at all), doesn’t mean I was not deserving of things that feed my soul.  And anyways, I now see – as this link up always shows me –  that I did still do a lot and I did work hard. I tell you guys, you don’t realize how much you did in a week until you give it a good list out. Do it, and then try and tell me you don’t deserve a major pat on the back. 

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So, last week I…

Spent every day at the theatre finishing up rehearsals and performing three runs of my show. I felt pretty okay about my performances, but definitely see what I’d like to work on moving forward. 

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Backstage    

Being called to rehearsal for full days, I felt deserving of the little bit of quiet time I found in the theatre’s library, where I found two plays I had been looking for.

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I stayed away from any form of physical activity and caffeine for the entirety of the week. I like to be grounded and as relaxed as possible any time that I am performing. 

That being said, once the run was done and Saturday morning had arrived, I felt majorly deserving of treating myself to one of the more expensive – and oh so delicious – americanos in my area.  

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Perfect crema – you make my heart melt. 

While savoring my americano, I created a document where I have saved my past, significant emails between my parents and I. It is such a shame that we do not write letters anymore, for emails do not get recorded or kept as “keepsakes” nearly to the same degree. It suddenly dawned on me that I could lose all these incredibly important memories – words written to me by my parents – with only one small internet/computer malfunction.  We are all deserving of having memories to look back on to remind us of those important moments in our life and the love of our families. I urge you to do something similar. 

I felt deserving of the number of evenings I spent on my couch finishing up the 3rd –  and making a good dent on the 4th – season of Gilmore Girls. Though I spent the majority of my days inactive and sitting around, they still took a lot of brain energy, which I say deserves a complete veg out. 

I also felt deserving to only publish two blog posts, considering my lack of my time at home and the extra post I got out last week. 

I finished up and made good use of my leftovers and my squash collection…

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…which then made me feel very deserving of my Saturday morning trip to the Farmers Market to replenish that stock. 

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Do you see the size of those eggplants!? $2!!

Even though I have been spending a lot of money this month (ugh), I felt deserving making my Vitacost and Iherb orders to get my usual necessities (plus a couple less necessary treats). For anyone interested, I use these sites to get great deals on my favorite all natural products, like this shampoo and conditioner, this castile soap (for all my DIY cleaning recipes), dish detergent and harder to find baking ingredients. If you’d like to do some discount shopping, use my referral code CFJ365 for $10 off your first purchase at IHerb or use this link for great discounts at Vitacost. 

I took myself, and my breakfast, to a Starbucks where I spent nearly FOUR hours researching historical 1900s London, which I need to present to my cast at the beginning of our new production rehearsals this week. This little project, although necessary, was the bane of my existanceeeeeee.

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Settle in. You’re gonna be here a while…

I also felt deserving of the coffee I had during this time. 

I attended a full day workshop for an Italian form of theatre called, “Commedia Del Arte,” in which the instructor surprised us with an Italian “charcuterie” style buffet lunch. 

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I was SO bloody tired and, as much fun as this form of theatre was, I was sooooo not feeling it (our last show was just the night before). The energy it took just to be there made me feel quite deserving of this lunch plate, as well as the massive piece of pumpkin cheesecake that Dan brought me earlier on that week, which I finished off that evening. 

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Pumpkin Spice Cheesecake? Yeah, okay. 

I spent yet another three hours at the library FINISHING up my research presentation, as well as hunting for new plays. That was one day of hard fricken work. 

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When I got home I felt more than deserving of the absolutely delicious dinner I threw together for myself – a new recipe which now – although I hadn’t planned it to be – I absolutely have to share on the blog. 

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Can you say cheeeese?

I caught up with a friend, I made a new batch of kombucha, swept a coupe times and did some baking (which you will see if you come back tomorrow).

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I worked hard this week, even if it wasn’t in the typical – or my usual – expectation of what “hard work” is. I worked in different ways, all of which made me feel deserving of the care I gave myself. But even with or without this so called “hard work,” the notion of “deserving” is really just a silly one. We are all “deserving,” simply because we are all living, breathing human beings. We don’t need to “deserve” to take care of ourselves or do what makes us happy. Its just a given. 

Tell me,

Do you tend to use the word “deserving” in your regular vocabulary? What if we just… took it out…..?

What was your favorite thing you did this week that you know you HELLA deserved? 

 

 

 

 

 

30 COMMENTS

  1. Emily Swanson | 26th Sep 16

    Wow, this is really an interesting perspective; and I think I need to really think about how it is okay and wonderful to enjoy and thank God for all His many gifts including food, rest, research, missing a workout, buying nut butters, and baking goodies. <3 Those are just a few of the things that I really love to do, but I sometimes feel guilty doing.
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    • Cora | 28th Sep 16

      It IS okay to enjoy all the gifts. If you love to do them then they are just meant to be part of your life!

  2. Casey the College Celiac | 26th Sep 16

    This week, my biggest mistake – but also my biggest “deserving” need – was when I was so tired on Thursday, I accidentally took my sleeping pills four hours early. I immediately started crying because I knew I would be knocked out before my night class, which is my hardest class. But I called my mom, emailed my teacher, and went to bed by 7 that night. As much as I wish I was a regular college student, I’m not. Because of my fibromyalgia, I need extra sleep, rest and recovery. And I’m hella deserving for making sure I get all of those.
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    • Cora | 28th Sep 16

      Oh man, Casey. I feel for you so much for how you must have felt when you realized you’d have to miss your class. But I think this was a “mistake” that was supposed to happen. Obviously you needed to catch up on rest, and you are not just “deserving” of giving yourself it – it is necessary.

  3. Susie @ SuzLyfe | 26th Sep 16

    LOVE THIS LOVE YOU
    I understand this so well. I have thoughts, but right now I’m having issues with the whole explication of things, so I’m going to think on them for the moment.
    But yes, great lesson.

    • Cora | 28th Sep 16

      You think away. Preferably on a couch resting with that puppy of yours. <3

  4. Sarah @ BucketListTummy | 26th Sep 16

    I am so curious about your theatre rehearsals. I wish I could come see a show! I love how each week you write this, you are realizing how much you actually do and how you respond to it. You are working so hard, and MENTAL strength is a real thing! And that stuffed squash? Want it! And your new CHEESY recipe?! Obviously I want/need that too! And now I’m craving pumpkin spice cheesecake! Have a great week, Cora!
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    • Cora | 28th Sep 16

      Thanks, Sarah. Mental strength is absolutely a thing, and I think I feel mine increasing. These posts really help with that.
      I wish we could share ALL the food together. Ending with that cheesecake.

  5. Kat | 26th Sep 16

    I try not to use that word “deserving” because to me, we are all deserving of no more than anyone else. This generation gets so caught up in thinking they “deserve” things just because they were born to certain parents, or because they turned 16 or because they graduated high school. You don’t “deserve” a new car for doing something that HUNDRED of other teens do! Does that make any sense? haha But there are cases in which I do think the word is ok, I just think it tends to get super overused sometimes!
    But that recipe? I’m going to need that sucker ASAP!
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    • Cora | 28th Sep 16

      I knooowwwww. Its like we / youth these days need to feel any sort of “deserving” for absolutely ANYTHING they do. Even if they don’t really feel it, its become such a part of their regular vocabulary… which is not good for the subconscious messages picked up by those younger than them.

  6. Lyss | 26th Sep 16

    I remind myself I am deserving of God’s love and my own love for myself. Those two things are enough to power me through!
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    • Cora | 28th Sep 16

      You are deserving of anything my dear. <3

  7. Joyce @ The Hungry Caterpillar | 26th Sep 16

    I think I’m with you about taking the word deserving just out of our vocabulary. I’m not sure that we need to earn a piece of cheesecake, or earn rest or earn nice emails from our families, in order to deserve them. That being said, it sounds like you worked really hard this week and I’m very glad you did have a chance to get some treats and self-care in! You finish one production and immediately jump into doing research for the next? Plus attend a full-day workshop somewhere in the mix? Girl.
    By the way, does that mean you’re directing this next production? Because that would be super-cool.
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    • Cora | 28th Sep 16

      Yeah, its busy, but I’m not balancing as many things as you are right now my dear!!
      But no, I am not directing…. still just acting. But one day I’d definitely love to get in to directing.

  8. Meghan@CleanEatsFastFeets | 26th Sep 16

    I can see cheese; multiple times in fact, especially if doing so makes some magically appear in front of me. I love a good charcuterie board, especially the self made kind because then you get all your favorites.

    I think we all deserve happiness. I don’t think it’s something you need to earn. Sure, we have to work to get it sometimes, but it’s well worth it in the end. I love how you splurged on yourself without feeling like you had to earn it. I also love how it’s coming easier for you. It is right? It seems like it.

    Happy Monday. Thanks for linking up and here’s to getting our self care on this week. 🙂
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    • Cora | 28th Sep 16

      It is coming easier for me. Like you always say, the more you do it the easier it gets….
      I like that you are always right in those things.

  9. Juli@1000lovelythings | 26th Sep 16

    In my eyes we all deserve everything we want as long as it doesn’t harm anybody else. That’s it. To be honest I have never really understood when people talk about how difficult they find spending their own money on themselves. In my mind it works like this: you work, you earn money, you deserve to spend it on whatever you want after the bills are paid. Easy!

    BUT only very recently like days ago I realized that I have a really big issue with feeling that I deserve to spend my time according to my own needs. I have to learn that I do in order to make things work for me! Maybe that is because time is more scarce compared to money for me? I don’t know!

    This is going to be way too long already. BUT I want to say: I am glad you went out of your comfort zone to treat yourself a bit without technically earning it. You deserve any time it no matter how you feel about it!
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    • Cora | 28th Sep 16

      I wish I could share your mindset about spending money!! Dear lord do I wish that.
      We are a bit opposite, it seems…. which is really quite interesting. I’m really protective – almost selfish I’d say – of spending time on/for/with myself. Sometimes I don’t get to, but then I get anxious and angry and you don’t want to be around me. I’ll spend time on myself, but I detest spending money on myself. I’ll give you some of my talent if you give me some of yours?

  10. Patricia @Sweet and Strong | 26th Sep 16

    I think as adults we should treat ourselves to things for our accomplishments just like we do with children. Usually the things I feel I deserve are related to food after good workouts or several days of clean eating. But I also treat myself to some pampering when I’ve gotten a lot done around the house or ran errands.
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    • Cora | 28th Sep 16

      I think we all need to treat ourselves to more things on the pampering side and not just always food… like time with family or to ourselves doing our favorite hobby, or a manicure, or a MASSAGE. Oh I could use that last one.

  11. Ellie Pell | 27th Sep 16

    I actually don’t use the word “deserve” very often. I think just being a human affords us to enjoy what we want. I guess I don’t like using “I deserve” because that implies that one day I might “not deserve” something I want. Who determines that?! I totally understand what you are meaning here though. After a hard week or rehearsal, whatever you want feels much better or tastes better.
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    • Cora | 28th Sep 16

      I like your way of thinking. Exactly. The word just implies something with a possible very negative side. Its nice to feel “deserving” sometimes, but we should never be made to believe we are NOT deserving. Its a tough one.

  12. chasetheredgrape | 27th Sep 16

    Gosh deserving is actually a word I hardly ever use… But my actions would suggest that often I don’t feel deserving of certain things… Like, as you know, my inability to spend money on myself.
    Your week, although action packed, sounds like super fun and I love the variety you had there. Oh and good coffee is always worth the money… 🙂

    • Cora | 28th Sep 16

      If there’s one thing I’ll splurge some extra cash on…….
      That’s very interesting that you don’t really use the word, but yes, you do find it hard to spend money on yourself. I wonder if you feel that is because you are “not deserving” even if you don’t put the word to it.

  13. Kristy from Southern In Law | 27th Sep 16

    I think the word deserving should probably be thrown out because of how many times I people use it in the WRONG way. As in “oh I really want this but I don’t deserve it” – or worse “I haven’t earned it”. It’s like anything – it can be a great thing to remember but it can also go the total opposite way!

    My favourite thing this week.. hmm! Probably a morning spent baking after an insanely busy few days!
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    • Cora | 28th Sep 16

      Exactly. I really think it should just be taken out. It does feel nice to feel “deserving” of something, but the opposite side of it is far more damaging and just not worth the risk.
      Yay I’m glad you got to treat yourself to one of your favorite pastimes! Hope you’ve had some time to rest up after the craziness.

  14. Stephanie Leduc | 29th Sep 16

    I honestly feel as if I have been spreading myself too thin lately, doing half mornings at work, going to school, attending workout classes, doing homework,studying and keeping up with blogging, man I kinda feel exhausted this week. Today, right after work and before going to school, I grabbed a beer at the school bar and I felt I HELLA deserved it haha, cheers to the little things.
    This blog post could not have come at more of the right time, I think you are of course deserving of all of this and I can not wait to see this recipe you made up on the blog!
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    • Cora | 1st Oct 16

      Oie. Girl that sounds exhausting. Even if you hadn’t been working yourself to the bone you would have deserved that beer, BUT, I hope it tasted EXTRA amazing because of everything you’ve been doing.
      Don’t spread yourself too thin now.

  15. Katie @ Peace Love & Oats | 4th Oct 16

    You are amazing. I don’t use deserving enough in my daily life! We need to all give ourselves some more credit <3

    • Cora | 4th Oct 16

      Right back at you Katie. We deserve all the credit.

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